The holidays are here or at least right around the corner. The dates on the calendar keep moving on. Do you want to watch them go, or jump in and experience each day? Let’s not say “this year went by so fast” let’s say ”wow, I did a lot this year!” Remember… a body in motion stays in motion. Same with the relationship.

Let’s stay ”in motion” and nurture our romantic relationship with ”couples activities”.

Tis the season…… how about going out and getting a Christmas tree?

That can be a lot of fun. Be considerate of your partner and plan a time when neither one of you is under pressure. You know what I mean, not Friday evening after a long week when your partner walks in the door and you say “let’s go get a tree”. Some discussing and planning is very helpful. ”Hey Hon….. let’s go get a tree this week. What day works for you”? ” I’ll make some hot cider to sip on”… or you can make whatever would help the outing be special.

There are many different ways to celebrate this time of year so if a Christmas tree doesn’t suit you, change ”Christmas tree” to whatever it is that you like to decorate with. Whatever you do, do it together and have fun.

Back to going out to get a tree. Maybe yours is artificial and you have to ”go” to the garage or attic. That’s okay, you still can go on a couple’s activity and go out to Christmas tree lots and have fun looking, smelling, oohing and ahhing, and, ( if needed) getting in the mood. And you won’t have to tie it to the roof of your car, all fun no work.

For those getting live trees, a little planning can help, especially if you are in a new house or apartment. Measure the area you want to have the tree, both height and width and bring your tape measure with you to the Christmas tree lot. Dress appropriately, you will be handling trees, you know ”hon, will you turn this one around for me”? And ”let’s open that one up” and ”can you hold both of them together so I can compare”? And ” what about that first one that we liked, can you bring it over here so I can see it again”? And then you will be jiggling branches to see if the needles fall off or hold tight. Yes you will be handling the trees, that is part of the fun, so gloves, pants and shirt that would make a lumberjack proud and if it has rained on the trees they could be wet. Be prepared

This is another great opportunity to learn more about what your partner likes. Maybe you alternate ”last year I picked out the tree so it’s your turn this year” always have fun with it. You have the choice so choose fun.

Singles – you get to do this too. The holidays are for celebrating. If you don’t decorate because you say or think ”I don’t have anyone to decorate for or to celebrate with”, what kind of message will you be sending out to the universe? I’ll answer that for you. By saying…… ” I’m not decorating because I don’t have anyone to celebrate with” the universe will make sure that you don’t have anyone to celebrate with. Got it? So go out there and get a Christmas tree. Get one that you like because next year you might be having your partner pick out the tree they like.

Have you ever noticed that when the lucky tree has been selected you feel connected with the tree, like it was grown especially for you, and then it becomes part of the family.

O Christmas tree…. O Christmas tree………How lovely are thy branches